Full Time Supervised Visitation Case Manager/ DV Advocate


Domestic & Sexual Violence Advocate

35 hours per week, Monday to Friday

Job Summary: The Domestic and Sexual Violence Advocate is a non-exempt position. The Advocate will focus on providing supportive counseling, Court advocacy and visitation case management services to survivors of domestic and/or sexual violence. The primary role of the Advocate will involve providing intensive, comprehensive, and culturally competent services for Nantucket.

 Job Requirements:

  • A. in liberal arts or social science field such as Psychology, Sociology, Women’s and/or Gender Studies.
  • Experience and/or training around community organizing
  • Completion of domestic violence and sexual assault pre-service training within first year of employment
  • Professional appearance and presentation
  • Good written and verbal skills
  • Computer proficiency (Windows, Excel, Adobe)
  • Be able to work competently under pressure, have non-judgmental attitude and adhere to agency, state and national policies regarding confidentiality.

Hourly Rate:  Range: $19-$22 per hour depending on experience

 Cover letter and resume to Jennifer Frazee, Program Director, A Safe Place, 5B Windy Way, Nantucket, MA . Email: Jennifer

 ASP is an Equal Opportunity Employer.  Qualified Applicants are considered for positions without regard to race, color, religion, sex, national origin, age, marital status, sexual orientation, status as a disabled veteran or a Vietnam Era veteran or the presence of a disability where otherwise qualified.



3rd Annual Walk a Mile in Her Shoes

Although last year Mother Nature tried to rain on our parade (literally), the men and boys of the frontofpostcard2016Nantucket community came together to strut their stuff along Children’s Beach to support survivors of domestic violence and sexual assault.

A Safe Place is planning our 3rd annual  Walk a Mile in Her Shoes event which will take place June 26th, 2016, with a rain date June 27th. Join us by showing the women in your life  that you care enough to walk in their shoes. We especially encourage teams from businesses and clubs.

Registration is only $20 person and we ask walkers to raise a minimum of $100. Higher goals are encouraged! Go to  to register and see pictures from last year’s event. We hope to see you there!

Request for Proposal: Assessment of Fundraising Program





A Safe Place located in Nantucket, Massachusetts seeks the services of a fundraising professional to provide an assessment of its fundraising and communication priorities.

The assessment will include the following tasks:

  • Review past and current fundraising activities and materials, donor records and giving patterns; Assess tools including data collection and reporting tools. Review past and current strategic plans, organizational history.
  • Interview at least 6  key constituents (phone or in person) including Executive Director, present and past Board members, large donors and other key constituents as identified by the Executive Director and the Board.
  • Assess the current messaging and language for A Safe Place and make recommendations to ensure that materials are donor-centric and messaging is cohesive across all platforms (web, paper, talking points, brochures, advertising).
  • Create written assessment (3-7 pages) of current capabilities.  Include specific recommendations for fundraising and communications programs; comparables for other commensurate non-profit organizations where necessary; a broad view two-year calendar for implementation; and a proposed staffing scenario (paid and volunteer). Present findings and recommendations for next phase to Executive Director and Board.

Individuals submitting proposals should have experience working in or as a consultant with smaller non-profits.

This assessment is Phase One of A Safe Place’s objective to develop a cohesive fundraising and communications program. Phase Two will focus on the implementation of approved recommendations made in phase one.  A second RFP will be created for phase two services.

Proposals may be submitted to:

 Executive Director

A Safe Place, Inc.

5B Windy Way

Nantucket, MA 02554

Please take a moment to read and reflect on the names of those in Massachusetts who were victims of Domestic Violence Homicide since last October.  Honor their memory by moving forward with resolve to help those currently struggling with violence in their homes and to work to prevent violence in the future by modeling healthy relationships.

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  • November 8, 2014: Audilia Daveiga, 33, of Springfield, shot to death in her home by her boyfriend, Paulo Rosa, 30, who subsequently killed himself. Daveiga is survived by two young sons.
  • December 20, 2014: Tanya Nichols, 51, of Marblehead, killed by her boyfriend, John Devine, 28. Nichols died from blunt force trauma to the head from a table Devine threw at her.
  • December 31, 2014: Gloria Resto, 42, of Waltham, was stabbed to death by her husband Julio Resto, 51, in their home. Resto is survived by two sons from a previous relationship.
  • January 5, 2015: Yahaira Hernandez, 30, of Springfield was found fatally shot to death in a running car.  Police identified the incident as an act of domestic violence by Pedro Vasquez, 40.
  • February 5, 2015: Lisa Trubnikova, 31, of Bourne was fatally shot by Adrian Loya, a fellow Coastguard worker who had been obsessed with her for years. A responding officer, Jared MacDonald, and Lisa’s wife, Anna, both suffered serious injuries from the incident.
  • February 11, 2015: Kathryn Mauka, 17, of Springfield was stabbed to death by her ex-boyfriend. There was no sign of forced entry into the home.
  • February 14, 2015: Anonymous, of Milford
  • February 15, 2015: Omar Mendez, 39, of Lawrence was fatally stabbed at his apartment by his live-in boyfriend, Miguel Rivera, 50.
  • February 17, 2015: Anonymous, of Tewksbury
  • March 11, 2015: Salina Merritt, 29, of Springfield was fatally stabbed, allegedly by Erick Buchanon, 46. Two other people were stabbed in the attack and survived their injuries. Merritt had one daughter and two sons.
  • March 18, 2015: Michelle Batista, 31, of Framingham was fatally shot by her boyfriend, Allen Murphy, 27, who then committed suicide.
  • March 27, 2015: Donna Buonanduci, 45, of Peabody was beaten to death with a hammer and bat by her ex-husband, Joseph Buonanduci. They had been divorced in February and had a 17 year old son.
  • March 27, 2015: Anonymous, of Webster
  • May 5, 2015: Monique Van Zandt, 25, of Springfield was fatally stabbed by her boyfriend Van Dorsey, 27, while he was allegedly under the influence of PCP. He claims to have no memory of the incident.
  • May 17, 2015: Christine Giordano, 45, of Wakefield was stabbed to death by her estranged husband, Daniel Burns, 42, when she sought him out to reconcile.
  • June 11, 2015: Cedric Taylor, 37, of Leominster was stabbed by his girlfriend, Stephanie Cruz, 28, after being released from the Worcester County House of Corrections where he had been awaiting trial on a domestic assault and battery charge against her.
  • June 16, 2015: Cheryl Young, 55, of Peabody was stabbed in the heart by her live-in boyfriend Brandon Hoar, 59 who claimed he had by trying to protect Young’s 5 year old granddaughter from Young, who suffers from bipolar disorder.
  • July 14, 2015: Matilde Gabin, 33, of Lawrence was shot to death in her driveway by her estranged husband, Nelson Delarosa, 65, who then committed suicide. She had filed for divorce in June.
  • September 1, 2015: Kate Church, 31, of Georgetown, died most likely from injuries inflicted by her husband, Matthew Church, 33, earlier in the day. She had refused medical treatment and when the police returned to check on her, she was dead.


A Life Has Ended

A life has ended, with the passing of a friend,
the memories of times, have come to an end,
their threads wove the fabric of an earlier day.

A life has ended, with the passing of a friend,
sunrises and sunsets, bright days and dark nights
circled again and again, and gave context to this life,
moment after moment, their life was lived each day.

A life has ended, with the passing of a friend,
lives have been touched by the dear one’s journey,
laughter, tears, hopes, fears, a life has come to an end 
memories hold their spirit alive, in my own life.

A life has ended, with the passing of a friend,
the loss of future moments, that will not be,
grateful for moments shared, that nourished me,
moments lived, in casual belief, they would never end.

A part of me has ended, with the passing of a friend,
be they gone from the earthly plane, their spirit soars,
to renew again, in summerland, heaven or another life,
I know not where, but their love remains with me,
for in this life, we friends, did share.

I miss my friend, but they will always be near, inside
of me, inside you, and all who took time to hear,
the music of this life so dear, a life now silent,
living only in the memory, of those who survive.

Copyright Abby Willowroot 2009


October Book Discussion

A Safe Place has joined the Atheneum in planning a book discussion on October 20th at 5:30pm in the Atheneum Gallery.  The selected book is Black and Blue by Anna Quindlen.  This event is free and open to the public.  Please read the synopsis below (courtesy of The book covers very sensitive and mature topics that are not suitable for all ages.

Black and Blue Book CoverFor eighteen years Fran Benedetto kept her secret, hid her bruises. She stayed with Bobby because she wanted her son to have a father, and because, in spite of everything, she loved him. Then one night, when she saw the look on her ten-year-old son’s face, Fran finally made a choice—and ran for both their lives.
Now she is starting over in a city far from home, far from Bobby. In this place she uses a name that isn’t hers, watches over her son, and tries to forget. For the woman who now calls herself Beth, every day is a chance to heal, to put together the pieces of her shattered self. And every day she waits for Bobby to catch up to her. Bobby always said he would never let her go, and despite the ingenuity of her escape, Fran Benedetto is certain of one thing: It is only a matter of time.

Take a Night Off for A Safe Place

Take the Night Off

photo courtesy of Shawn Monaco

You can spend time doing something with your family and friends (or by yourself) and still support A Safe Place!

Consider the following activities:

  • Meet a friend and walk your dog at Tupancy Links. ($50)
  • Pack a picnic and take in a free concert at Children’s Beach. ($100)
  • Look at the boats and browse the art galleries on the wharves. ($250)
  • Watch the sunset and go star-gazing with your sweetheart.. ($500)
  • Order take-out and enjoy a relaxing evening at home! ($1,000)

Make your donation to Take a Night Off online or print out the RSVP Card (PDF) and send it to A Safe Place, 5B Windy Way, Nantucket, MA 02554.

Walker Appreciation!

On Sunday, July 26th at 4pm all walkers, supporters and friends are invited to Children’s Beach to celebrate the success of the Walk A Mile In Her Shoes fundraiser as well to recognize the hard work of all the walkers and supporters.

Please join us, and bring your shoes!

Walk A Mile In Her Shoes walkers

June Book Discussion – My Story by Elizabeth Smart

A Safe Place has joined the Atheneum in planning a book discussion on June 23rd at 5:30pm in the Atheneum Gallery.  The selected book is My Story by Elizabeth Smart with Chris Stewart.  This event is free and open to the public.  Please read the synopsis below (courtesy of The book covers very sensitive and mature topics that are not suitable for all ages.


On June 5, 2002, fourteen-year-old Elizabeth Smart, the daughter of a close-knit Mormon family, was taken from her home in the middle of the night by religious fanatic, Brian David Mitchell and his wife, Wanda Barzee. She was kept chained, dressed in disguise, repeatedly raped, and told she and her family would be killed if she tried to escape. After her rescue on March 12, 2003, she rejoined her family and worked to pick up the pieces of her life.


Now for the first time, in her memoir, MY STORY, she tells of the constant fear she endured every hour, her courageous determination to maintain hope, and how she devised a plan to manipulate her captors and convinced them to return to Utah, where she was rescued minutes after arriving. Smart explains how her faith helped her stay sane in the midst of a nightmare and how she found the strength to confront her captors at their trial and see that justice was served.

In the nine years after her rescue, Smart transformed from victim to advocate, traveling the country and working to educate, inspire and foster change. She has created a foundation to help prevent crimes against children and is a frequent public speaker. In 2012, she married Matthew Gilmour, whom she met doing mission work in Paris for her church, in a fairy tale wedding that made the cover of People magazine.


Walk A Mile In Her Shoes

Tommy B. to MC 2nd Annual Walk a Mile Event


WAM crownLast year, more than 50 men and boys, with friends and supporters, walked one mile around the Brant Point area in women’s shoes to raise funds for A Safe Place and bring attention to the issue of violence against women. This year will be even bigger!

Men have an important role to play in the prevention of violence. By participating in this event men send a message of support to survivors of sexual and domestic violence and demonstrate a commitment to preventing future assaults. Join us by showing the women in your life that you care enough to walk in their shoes. We especially encourage teams from businesses and clubs. banner

Registration is only $20 person and we ask walkers to raise a minimum of $100. Higher goals are encouraged! Go to  to register and see pictures from last year’s event.


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Book Discussion at the Nantucket Atheneum

April is Sexual Assault Awareness Month and in recognition, A Safe Place has joined the Atheneum in planning a book discussion on April 28th at 5:30pm in the Atheneum Gallery.  The selected book is Beyond the Tears:  A True Survivor’s Story by Lynn C. Tolson.  This event is free and open to the public.  Please read the synopsis below (courtesy of  The book covers very sensitive and mature topics that are not suitable for all ages.

Beyond the Tears: A True Survivor's Story

Beyond the Tears: A True Survivor’s Story is a memoir that begins with the suicide attempt of an abused and addicted twenty-five-year-old woman. In the aftermath, she commits to counseling to recover from anxiety and depression associated with post-traumatic stress disorder (PTSD). The author engages the reader in her private therapy sessions. The young woman reveals dysfunctional family relationships, including domestic violence, sexual abuse, and mental illness. Due to the therapeutic process, the woman discovers a path to love and the value of life, and she ultimately achieves a life that reflects health and happiness. In sharing this inspirational journey, the author provides a message of hope.

Author Lynn C. Tolson appeals to the reader from the first paragraph of her powerful memoir Beyond the Tears: A True Survivor’s Story. Tolson uses creative non-fiction to tell her story, fascinating the reader with metaphor, prose, and poetry. Tolson tells her riveting story in first-person narrative, enabling the reader to instantly bond with her authentic voice. Readers can readily visualize the settings, plot, and characters due to the author’s well-developed descriptions and dialogue.

This is not an average auto-biography: the book combines story-telling with self-help, affirmations, meditations, and therapeutic concepts. Each chapter begins with a quote appropriate to the content, which gives the reader even more to contemplate. The topics challenge the reader to explore social problems within the context of family relationships. However, Tolson uses her clever wit to offer the reader occasional comic relief. Readers say that they simultaneously laughed and cried on the same page. Some readers say that reading the book literally changed their lives.

In the author’s own words: “For nearly twenty years, I engaged in careers in retail, real estate and property management. Every working day left me feeling unfulfilled, as if I was living a false life. My real life began not by changing jobs, but by putting pen to paper in journal writing sessions. Themes emerged regarding the impact of my sexual abuse, drug addiction, and suicide attempts. By using the journal to write about the problems and solutions discussed in my counseling sessions, a story of transformation evolved. My desire to share a message of healing from trauma became too strong to ignore; the book became a mission. I left the corporate environment to write my story about personal yet universal emotional issues. Although journal writing was a cathartic experience, the book was written with the courage to face my fears, with compassion for myself and others, and a conviction to tell the truth.

Sexual assault, addiction, and suicide are unsolved social problems that carry stigmas. The stigmas cast a code of silence that do not solve problems. The result from not speaking about the crime of sexual assault is too often tragic. Thus, there is a need for real stories of recovery.

By bringing my dark secrets to light, it is my hope that others who have had similar events will know that they are not alone. Readers may explore their own emotions to open lines of communication, eliminate shame, and experience healing. I also hope that my book promotes understanding of the issues that cause individual suffering and plague our society.”

About the author: After her first eighteen years in the Northeast, Lynn C. Tolson moved to the Southwest where she engaged in careers in real estate and property management. During those years, she survived post-traumatic stress disorde (PTSD), which manifested in addictions and suicide attempts. Through the therapeutic process, she determined the causes of her ailments. Her memoir, Beyond the Tears: A True Survivor’s Story illustrates physical, emotional, and spiritual transformation. Tolson moved to the Midwest where she returned to college to obtain a degree in social work. She has also overcome breast cancer.